February 2005 Archives

Survivor: Race War

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Yay! Survivor is back! Now I have something to live for again ... well, on Thursday nights, anyway. The rest of the week is still a wash.

My joy reminds me of an idea that I had, or helped generate, or at least was in the same room when it came about (actually, I think Herr Higgins and I may have developed this one together), during Survivor 6 which was (not to get all sentimental about my Survivors) the first one that Chris and I watched together ... sniff ... anyway, this was the Survivor that they divided teams into girls and boys and I think it was also the first to have somone with a disability - you know - the deaf chick.

It's safe to say that the most interesting part about the show is how groups form, and leave people out, and one of the things that's been pretty obvious over the years is that anyone who is not a muscled up white frat boy is vulnerable in the group dynamics. Skinny white chicks are also favored. Black people, people with tattoos, etc. tend to stick out. This doesn't mean they don't compete well, or even win, but the frat boys tend to stick with the skinny white chicks and each other.

Anyway, this gave us the idea that they should have some Survivors that take the next logical step: if they'd do boys against girls, why not whites against blacks? Young against old? Gays versus straights? Disabled versus regular abled or whatever you call it? Working class Southerners against preppies? They would have to come up with some slightly more interesting challenges in some cases, but that would be a good thing (I am getting really bored of the net and wall climbing for one thing and some wheel-chair accessible challenges could only improve things) and it would rule! And I think they'd get good ratings, too. The only thing that would suck is if the white frat boys won.

QVC essay

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Slate has a kind of cute essay about a woman with inventions who tries to sell some to QVC. Makes me want to try selling them scrunci-undies on TV.

Pica's doing great!

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Here she is at Kelly Point Park.

It's been pointed out to me that most of my entries about Pica have been negative, but she's been doing great lately! Hasn't chewed any shoes for at least two weeks. Has been cute as hell at play and at rest. Yesterday she got kind of picked on by a few dogs -- first at the dog park, then at Kelly Point Park by a pack of vizslas, and then in her own yard by the toy poodle upstairs who had company that emboldened her to chase poor Pica around and around. So that was too bad. But she seems to have recovered. We walked to UP this morning and will go back to the dog park this afternoon. There's this one boxer that comes there in the morning who likes to kind of pick on Pica -- the problem is, Pica acts like prey, running around and trying to get other dogs to chase her, so any agressive dogs who generally like to pick on other dogs love to pick on her. Anyway, hopefully this afternoon will be better. She's been enjoying herself a lot most of the time -- it's pretty charming to watch, actually -- she's got a lot of doggie friends, so don't think she's lonely or anything. She's sleeping on my feet right now.

New blog! How Other Couples Do It

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Higgins and I have a new blog, How Other Couples Do It -- the Blog. I'm using it as a place to make research notes for now. Cuter graphics, full-on website, more content -- still to come. But it's a BLOG ferchristssake! Rejoice!!

The Pole Family

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Kathy and I had this idea last night.

It would be either a drama, sit-com, children's book, or skit about a family: a firefighter married to a stripper, with two kids. In their two-story house they'd have several poles: one for getting from the 2nd floor to the first, one to dance around and one for tetherball. They'd have a pet polecat. There would be lots of Jackson Pollacks on the wall. They would be of Polish origin. At some point, the firefighter would get politician ambitions. She'd do some polling, run, and win! Dad would enter a pole climbing competition and win! Junior would enter a pole vaulting competition and win! The other Junior would win a big pole position competition! Then the whole family would take a trip to the North Pole and visit their relatives in North Pole.

Selling crap on eBay

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So now that my cafe press store is no longer linked (indeed, I need to update the merch with the new logo -- if you loved the old logo, now's the time to buy up!), I'm left with eBay as my e-commerce outlet. My first sale a couple of month's ago was a pair of snooty-pants shoes, which sold for an obscene amount of money. They were a gift that didn't really fit (thanks, Dave Loveland!), so I was pretty happy with that. And then yesterday I posted this Lobster votive candle holder (grandma, if you're reading this, I'm sorry! I loved the lobster votive candle holder in theory, but I just don't have room in my life for it right now!). But when Nancy came over she wanted it for a friend, so I sold it to her. No shipping costs or hassle! But so far no one is buying my hip 1970s jean jacket or my pyrex saucepan, despite my best efforts to make it look like a boudoir photo. I'm going to work on refining my auctions, though. I need to find something to do with all the crap in the basement, and my gut tells me it's gold.

Savory Water

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I was reading in the New York Times (which I won't bother with since by now it's probably pay-per-view only) an article in the dining section about how more restaurants are offering "drink pairings" -- that is, non-alcoholic alternatives to wine pairings with courses, and it described a bunch of the crazy drinks that the chefs had come up with so they didn't lose any money to tee-totaling pregnant women and recovering alcoholics and any other people who might not want wine with dinner. I can't remember if they had savory drinks, but I'm sure that they did, and this seems to me to be a concept worth popularizing to a wider audience through a line of drinks, like Gatorade, or Snapple, or Tazo (those beverage companies have some pretty slick websites, don't they?).

This line of Mary's Savory Waters (wow -- that sounds kind of disgusting, doesn't it?) would offer a variety of still and sparkling waters infused with flavor such as:

  • basil
  • bay leaf
  • hot pepper
  • green pepper
  • smoked something (maybe just smoke? call it gunpowder)
  • cheddar/parmesean
  • soy
  • ranch

I'm deliberately leaving off the meat flavors because that would just be cold bullion.

Thanks to Melissa for suggesting, "it's the thought that counts." Brilliant! Perfect! I haven't figured out how to get it to show up on page one (might have to re-do the banner -- I think it's actually under it now), but the description now appears on the archive pages -- which otherwise look kind of crappy. Wow!! Things are going to start happening to me now.

NEW LOGO!!!! FINALLY IS HERE!!!!

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check it out: Pete helped me get up my new logo and look. AND!! If you bookmark me in a program that you haven't already booked me in, or somehow or other otherwise get me out of your cache, you will even see a little me in your toolbar!!!

thanks to pete for the redesign and logo.

Misheard Lyrics

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I've been enjoying clicking around this site with misheard lyrics, particularly, for some reason, the Def Leppard entries. "I've got to feel it in my butt" -- Whoa,oh! indeed!

Pictures of Me!
There's a couple sketches of me at the bottom of this page by my friend Chris Baldwin. I don't know how much I like the one on the right, but he's done some other cuter pictures of me (including the one on the left) so I won't complain.

I wrote the introduction to his latest collection. I'll let you know when it's out so you can buy it and see how brilliant I am when illustrated by his drawings! (not to mention seeing his clever drawings and words ...).

I need a tagline
On another topic, I've decided I need a tagline -- all the cool websites seem to have them; even Chris has one, and the bloggies had a whole category for them -- so I want my own. Some ideas so far I've come up with:

Better than butter.
Better than bacon.
Butter, then bacon.
I thought of it first.
If you dream it, no need to make it.
Writing is doing something.
Goats are cute except for their butts; actually, that's true of a lot of animals.
I don't remember names, I can't remember faces, but I never forget a smell.

Well, I'll come back to this, but let me know if you have any ideas. I suppose I could get one that changed every time you reloaded the page. I don't know how that works, of course.

Chinese New Year
It's Chinese New Year today. Year of the Rooster, 4702. Happy New Year!!! It was also (what I at least considered) my unofficial anniversary with Chris. He didn't like the way I proliferated anniversaries, but I like a lot of them! Why the hell not? Tim and I celebrated our post-it note anniversary AND our paperclip anniversary. I think that was one month and two months, respectively. I made Tim a little book out of post its and he made me a paperclip necklace. We were both notaries at the time, and hoped that our children would be notaries, also, or at the very least pink collar. Anyway, I'm feeling kind of maudlin. I'm planning on getting some schezwan/sichuan eggplant and listening repeatedly to "Pomp and Circumstance" as played by a marching band. It was (what I at least considered) our song -- it was the only thing stately that I had to play at midnight, our first Chinese New Year together. If I had a fuller record collection it could have been aud lang sein or some Chinese song. God knows what I'll do on Valentine's day.

Anyway, I have to finish a job application, which is why I'm blogging so much. I'm applying to teach high school history. Maybe I'm crazy, but I'm also broke.

Raterrecoon (a.k.a., Pestducken)

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I had this idea a couple of Thanksgivings ago when there was a rat in me kitchen. It first made its home in between the dishwasher and the kitchen sink and Chris was the first to hear it (he said it was quite loud and he thought maybe there was a human intruder in the house). It then secretly migrated to the kitchen stove, where it proceeded to pee upon and rip up the insulation, and generally fuck things up. I didn't realize it had made a home in the stove as well as the sink area for awhile, and continued cooking on the stove well after I'd killed and disposed of the rat. I kept wondering why I smelt rat pee when I cooked (I thought it might be my cooking, actually) and only realized what was going on Thanksgiving morning as I preheated the oven, smelt rat pee yet again, and started poking around and saw the torn up insulation. Ugh! I believe that was the same Thanksgiving we all got what I thought at the time was the Norwalk Virus, but now that I read up on the details I'm not so sure -- I promise there is no way I got stools on the food. Anyway, we were all really sick -- pukey sick -- in the day's after I served dinner.

Killing the rat was a source of some anxiety for me -- I am a serious pussy when it comes to killing things and I did, after all, once have a pet rat named Ratty. (Actually, at first Ratty's name was Claudia and she belonged to my friend Tim Moore. My mom changed her name to Ratty after we all went to Alaska and left Claudia/Ratty behind. Tim was planning to smuggle her on the plane in his jacket at first but then thought better of it -- man, those were the days. Can you imagine trying to smuggle a rat aboard a plane these days? My mom also had a cat named Catty. Ratty had a ton of personality, and after I came back from Alaska she became my pet for awhile. We used to play this game called "Ratapult" with her where she would be on the bed and we'd kind of toss her around with our feet under the covers. She loved it!) At first I considered using a live trap, but then, I thought, where would I release it? where would a Norwegean rat be welcome? Not even in Norway, I think, and certainly not in any part of North Portland. I also thought about using glue traps, but then I read someone's story about setting out a glue trap only to find little gluey rat footprints all over their carpet in the morning. While I was considering the catch-live-and-then-kill method I asked Denise for a good method of killing the rat once I caught it and she suggested putting it in a pillow case and then spinning the case around and around as fast as I could and then thumping it hard on concrete. A regular rat trap started to look more and more attractive.

I called Multnomah County Vector Control (this is one of those government services that even the most die-hard libertarian must admit is a great return on the tax dollar) and they told me how to set a rat trap safely -- safely for me, that is. (Poisons were out of the question because Lita was still in the picture -- just too old a feeble to kill a rat -- and because Vector Control warned me the rat might eat some poison and go somewhere inaccessible but smellable to die.) [I just looked around for a website which demonstrated the technique they recommended and didn't find one so maybe I'll have to add some pictures here.] Anyway, setting a rat trap is really easy if you use the foot control technique. You just put on some good boots or shoes and hold the trap open with your feet while you set the trip wire and then release the trap slowly with your feet while your little fingers are well out of the way. Words fail me here -- I'll take some pictures. Anyway, it really relieves the reasonable fear that you will break your fingers in setting it. And then I tried setting it with different things -- cheese was a no-go -- it just ignored it -- so were hot dogs, which it took and ate without setting off the trap. Same with little piles of peanut butter. Finally I took some peanut butter and smeared it all over some gauze which I then attached to the trip wire. This worked because the rat had to gnaw at it, I guess, which set off the trip wire.

I found it with its little neck broken one morning. Actually, the neck wasn't near little enough for my taste -- it was a lot bigger than Ratty's, that's for sure -- well, before the tumor took hold of Ratty. Did you know that rats are particularly vulnerable to cancer? I'm not sure if that's why they use them in so many studies, but it make sense. We didn't subject Ratty to anything more toxic than the rest of us experienced, but nonetheless poor little Ratty got a huge growth on her neck which grew and grew until my mother finally had to put her down. She's as much of a softie as me, so she actually took Ratty into the vet to have them do it. My sister's father Javier, who grew up on a farm in rural Mexico, was incredulous that Betsy would actually spend good money to kill a rat that was well within striking distance. He offered to do it for her, but she took it to the vet, anway. Javier and Denise should really meet sometime, if they haven't already.

So anyway, back to that sad, rat-pissy Thanksgiving morning. While I was thinking about Vector Control and all the animals that plague us -- rats, squirrels, possums, racoons, mice, lice, etc. -- I thought: what if you could combine them all into one roastable treat, like a turducken? A pestducken! Or a raterrelcoon? A pocoonice? A mouse inside rat inside a squirrel inside a possum -- inside a racoon. After all, if you can stuff a camel, why not a racoon?

My unwillingness to actually eat something like this points out my discomfort with myself as a hypocritical meat eater. I feel bad that I don't like killing things and yet love eating them. I'm still working on that. But I stopped myself from buying turkey dogs last night as Safeway with thoughts of rats as well as turkeys.

Updating my blog

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As you can see, I'm updating my blog, with a lot of help from Chris, who updated our movable type. The blog spam was driving me nuts, so he set us up with typekey so you'll now have to register with them (it's painless) or have your comments approved by me - not a big deal, actually, and then I'm working on the look of the whole thing by stealing Chris's templates which he got somewhere else. I won't leave it this dull -- actually, I have a newish logo that Pete made me like a year ago that I'd like to encorporate -- but I'm still working on the whole style sheet thing. Actually, I'm pretty pleased with myself with what I've been able to do so far without screwing things up!

Why I Hate the Goodwill

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A couple of years ago I was living in a small town in Michigan where I made regular trips to the local Goodwill As-Is. I love a bargain, and it reminded me of hometown, Portland, Oregon. The Adrian Goodwill As-Is displayed their goods heaped up in piles atop big wooden bins, just like home, and there was an abundance of dirty, crappy stuff that no one else really wanted with one or two cool things thrown in for good measure, just like home. Unlike Portland, they priced things by the piece instead of by the pound, so, $.25 for a pair of pants, $.50 for shoes, $.75 for an overcoat, etc., but it was still wicked cheap, obviously, so I wasn't complaining.

One day while I was shopping I overheard the staff say something about going to a by-the-pound system. I butted in: "that's the way they do it where I'm from!" They were extremely interested and told me that my Goodwill was a model for Goodwills all over the country and they were trying to adopt its practices.

When I eventally returned home to Portland, I found out why. Prices at the Goodwill had spiraled out of control! Even at the bins (or the As-Is, or the "Outlet" as they are now calling it) was charging $1.29 a pound! The regular first-run Goodwills had adopted a cheap department store look, and replacd the popcorn and hotdog counter with an espresso stand. I don't like change on general principals, and I definitely didn't approve of any of these updates. But the real downside struck home when I saw a man, whom I'd originally noticed in the parking lot getting out of a live/drive car in the parking lot, bring a pair of workboots up to the counter to ask the price. After he was told they were $5.00 he tossed them back in a bin in disgust. It did seem a ridiculous price for a pair of shitty old worn out workboots and I thought to myself, "what a betrayal of Goodwill principals!" My sense of outrage inspired regular, ranting barstool lectures to friends and family. My aunt was so pissed about the high prices at Goodwill that she took to shoplifting some small item on each trip, wearing a hat or scarf out of the place.

Goodwill was a big part of my life growning up. As a kid, I thought of the Goodwill as a generous source of cheap goods for poor people that only incidentally employed retards and cripples as a thoughtful source cheap labor to keep the prices down for us poor folk. (Goodwill also employed at least one able bodied member of the family who took advantage of his position by picking extra nice goodies from the donation box to bring home to us. It was a form of graft, but it all seemed within the spirit of things.) I thought of the Goodwill as a cornicopia of all that was good and fun, where you could go and buy anything you wanted -- and many things you didn't. I still have dreams inspired largely by the freedom that the Goodwill made me feel. At the old Goodwill, they didn't even have shopping carts, so you'd find a cardboard box or suitcase, attach an old tie or belt to it and drag it around on the ground after you. You'd load that box up with as many items as your heart desired and leave with big garbage bags full of goodies (or baddies -- who cared?). You didn't worry too much about what fit or not because you could always give it back; it was all part of the great cycle of consumption.

Then, in the context of what I came to understand about the history of American consumer culture, I saw Goodwill as a potential source of empowerment for poor people: a chance to excercise the buying power that the world otherwise denied them, but valued so highly. And unlike charity, there could be no coercive pressure to reform. I also saw it somewhat more insidiously as a gateway drug for a consumer's high. As a someone without much money, you could still be introduced to the thrills of unfettered consumption -- practice for later days when you might actually have some money (and maybe an incentive to make it).

After some research I realized that my disappointment in Goodwill came from a profound misunderstanding of its mission. The historical mission of Goodwill Industries rests more on ideals about production than consumption. Our local Goodwill aims to "provide vocational opportunities to people with barriers to employment;" the national Goodwill says, "We at Goodwill Industries will be satisfied only when every person in the global community has the opportunity to achieve his/her fullest potential as an individual and to participate and contribute fully in all aspects of a productive life."

I have mixed feelings about this emphasis on production rather than consumption. Historians tell us that in the early/mid-20th century American workers made a compromise with capitalists under the new industrial economy: they accepted relatively boring, non-automomous, and alientating working conditions in exchange for more time off, and increased wages which gave them greater buying power under what one historican has called the Consumers' Republic. In this narrative, Americans went from skilled producers to deskilled consumers, a bargain that wasn't without sacrifice, but I think we can all agree that consumer culture is not without pleasure: certainly even the gnarliest thrift-store shopping trip is more fun than grinding away as a receptionist, drill press operator, or sock assembler. On the other hand, many groups today (particularly Canadians, for some reason) have rejected consumption as a basis for identity and ask us to find something more meaningful to hold on to. I don't think they mean work, but for all of us, there something more noble in general about the idea of identifying with what we make, than what we buy.

But I don't know that there's much nobility in the work that Goodwill offers. When I found out that Goodwill has a temp agency, the prospect of a cruel and innapropriate comedy skit immediately came to mind: Scene: boardroom full of high-powered executives, "We need this report out by Monday but we just don't have the manpower to crunch all that data!" Guy in suit: "Let's call in a temp!" Next scene: receptionist's desk at snazzy office interior. Guy who looks and talks like he has Downs Syndrome or something introduces himself: "Hi, I'm the temp. Will you be my friend?" Stressed out executive rushes out, "Great! we need you to start in on this report pronto!" Hilarity ensues as Temp fails to understand instructions, wants to be everyone's friend, hugs people at inappropriate times, etc. The Goodwill Temp could be a series (or at least a running joke on SNL).

Goodwill sees itself as offering a low-stakes chance to learn about the displine of the workforce. The Goodwill temp agency in Southern Oregon, for instance, is called, "Willpower," and Goodwill brags that it teaches such "soft skills" as "time management, dependability, problem solving and customer service.", not to mention appropriate dress. All of this would be easier to take if it weren't for the additional fact that the Oregon Department of Justice has been auditing Goodwill because its CEO is so highly compensated for a non-profit. I don't know that I think non-profit executives should make less than regular ones -- they all make too much! Still, the move from selling poor folks junky things at a low price to gouging folks of all kinds for crappy things so that you can give poor people their money back in the form of charity with lots of strings attached just seems naturally regressive. Personally, I've been trying to just plain give away more stuff for free to avoid the whole issue.

I'm petering out here -- what began as an energetic barstool rant has trickled to a overworked blog entry; I now have too much information to be truly irate or articulate (or maybe I just need to drink more beer while blogging). I've been learning about the value of the polemic from reading, Against Love: A Polemic, but I lack the ability to suspend uncertaintly to carry it off. I guess my point in a nutshell is, I miss the days when I was able to enjoy Goodwill as a training ground for unfettered consumption even if I am politically suspicious of consumption as a skill to be learned, and in theory, at least, more sympathetic to the idea that we realize ourselves through our skills and talents rather than our pocketbooks. Boo hoo.

Surprise Party Planners

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We really surprised Betsy on Saturday at her birthday party! It was awesome. Sandra and Peter and Duncan were here from the East coast and everything. Right before this picture was taken Woody had told Betsy that Porter had built a fort behind the closed pocket doors. When he flung them open it was a room full of about 40 people who all yelled: "SURPRISE!!" or maybe they said "HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!" I don't remember -- I was walking in with Betsy, so I didn't say anything.

Anyway, it was the greatest. I've wanted to have a surprise party for a long time -- for myself, I mean. But, like so many things in life, it doesn't seem to be happening spontaneously, which makes me think I've got to make it happen.

Wouldn't it be great if you could hire someone to throw a surprise party for you? Your own Surprise Party Planner?

You'd give them your address book and a bunch of money and say: surprise me sometime in the next 6 months (or whatever time period made sense). They'd work closely with all your friends, get a cake, some balloons, maybe a monkey or two. And then! When you least expected it: Whammo!!! SURPRISE!!!

Now, some people might say, that this misses the whole point of a surprise party as a more-or-less spontaneous show of affection by all your friends. To that I say: pshaw. The whole point of our economy is that you can buy anything, even surprises. And pretty much anything is better, in my opinion, when it's a surprise.

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